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Your role is changing

As your child becomes a young adult, your role begins to shift. Instead of making decisions for them, you can support them in exploring options, building skills, and making choices that reflect their goals. By encouraging independence while remaining a trusted guide, you help them build the confidence and connections they need to thrive in adulthood.

Independence and Interdependence

Living as an adult can look different for everyone. It's about learning how to manage daily life, make choices and take part in the community.

The terms independent living and interdependent living (below) reflect the many different ways a person can manage life as an adult — in some areas a person might want to build their independence, and in others they might like to tap into their community and other supports.

  • Interdependent living refers to the way that every person gets help and support from others sometimes. Some things might be handled on their own and in other areas, a person might rely on friends, family or community supports.

  • Independent living is more than living on your own. It's being informed, believed and heard. It's making your own decisions. It's knowing that your rights are protected and supported.

You can help your child build their life, make decisions and become valued member of their community.

Planning for the future is an important step for every young person, and having support from family can make all the difference.

Ways to support your child’s growing independence

Learn about what independence might look like for your child by listening to their goals, identifying the skills and habits they can build, and helping them practice.

Talk with your child about their hopes, dreams and interests. Ask questions like, What do you see yourself doing after high school? and What are some things you'd love to try?

Charting the LifeCourse has worksheets you and your child can complete together to help define what “a good life” looks like, including:

  • Life trajectory worksheet (PDF) helps your young adult think about what “a good life” looks like and the steps to get there.

  • Integrated supports star worksheet (PDF) is a way to map out the supports your young person already has and where they might want more help.

Encourage your child to lead the conversation in their IEP meetings, medical appointments or community programs. Their voice should guide the planning. 

Explore options for postsecondary education and training and employment—check out these links to find more information on these topics from the Hub.

Help your child understand different pathways and how they align with their strengths and interests.

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Find supports for YOU

Parent and support groups can offer lived experiences similar to your own. You can connect to groups near you or online. Use the link below to explore a list of parent and family support resources curated by the Hub.

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